When you feel you need to talk and you just can't - I wonder if I am the only one...
What I mean is I sometimes like to talk to people and spend quality time with them which is one form of love for me. I realized that it does not matter if I am texting, in person, or over video - The point is that quality time is happening.
What about you, what makes you feel loved? I mean have you thought about the simple things that get you right at the heart and makes you feel special and loved. Those could be flowers, a compliment, someone cleaning your home, feeling a person touch your hand, and/or just communicating with someone.
Some people would call these qualities the Five Love Languages, which are: Gifts, Quality Time, Words of Affirmations, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.
I encourage you to google - Five Love Languages and learn which language you have.
The point is everyone needs to feel loved. Loving yourself or another person does not have to be difficult to show, but in return could be very simple. My hope is that people would diversify themselves and find out what way makes you and/or someone else feel loved.
Than go out and show it to the people you love and let people know your love language. My hope is that people will not fill love with something else that in the end will hurt them. Loving is amazing and true love is even better. Don't settle for second best but wait for the best.
You got this, all you have to do is search out what you need and want and remember it may be in the form you were not even thinking about, so go find what fulfills you. And know whatever that outcome is each person is different and receives love in their own way --- find yours!
Friday, July 26, 2019
Saturday, July 20, 2019
Loose Lips Sink Ships.....
Loose Lips Sink Ships.....does that even make any sense? I thought this slogan was meant for people who gossiped or shared information that was not for them to share, but this week I learned it could be for something else.
Lets talk about this for a moment...I thought I was a person that tried to keep certain elements/topics to myself, except this week I realized I share things to certain people that I trust which help me process what is going on in my life.
Let me explain...I am an outward processor which means I process things by talking it through or speaking out loud. This means I have to be patient for people who process internally because I need to allow everyone to come up with the answer in their own timing.
But what does that have to do with Loose Lips Sink Ships...For me it means I need to figure out another way to process my thoughts than telling someone my personal business especially when it relates to another person. I did not think about how that other person would feel even though I meant no harm and all I was trying to do was figure out my own feelings and/or thoughts.
As I write this, my heart feels heavy because I need to apologize to everyone that I may of unintentional hurt due to me trying to process a situation and/or issue I was personally trying to deal with.
Now back to the slogan of Loose Lips Sink Ships - I think for me this means I need to stop and somehow internally process what, who, and why I need to talk to anyone about a personal matter I am dealing with especially when it deals with another individual because I may not intentionally try to create harm, but in the end information my be spoken that did not have permission to be shared.
I guess my hope can be that others will be careful what he/she says to another person because you may not know if the words you say will hurt or effect that person in a negative way. I learned the hard way, but am thankful I get to learn from this lesson and move forward in shifting how I communicate and process ideas/thoughts.
Just know that we all have power to use our mouth to uplift or tear down someone -- that means the ball is in your court on how you will touch another person's life. Go be the light instead of spreading darkness to a world that needs a little more sunshine.
Lets talk about this for a moment...I thought I was a person that tried to keep certain elements/topics to myself, except this week I realized I share things to certain people that I trust which help me process what is going on in my life.
Let me explain...I am an outward processor which means I process things by talking it through or speaking out loud. This means I have to be patient for people who process internally because I need to allow everyone to come up with the answer in their own timing.
But what does that have to do with Loose Lips Sink Ships...For me it means I need to figure out another way to process my thoughts than telling someone my personal business especially when it relates to another person. I did not think about how that other person would feel even though I meant no harm and all I was trying to do was figure out my own feelings and/or thoughts.
As I write this, my heart feels heavy because I need to apologize to everyone that I may of unintentional hurt due to me trying to process a situation and/or issue I was personally trying to deal with.
Now back to the slogan of Loose Lips Sink Ships - I think for me this means I need to stop and somehow internally process what, who, and why I need to talk to anyone about a personal matter I am dealing with especially when it deals with another individual because I may not intentionally try to create harm, but in the end information my be spoken that did not have permission to be shared.
I guess my hope can be that others will be careful what he/she says to another person because you may not know if the words you say will hurt or effect that person in a negative way. I learned the hard way, but am thankful I get to learn from this lesson and move forward in shifting how I communicate and process ideas/thoughts.
Just know that we all have power to use our mouth to uplift or tear down someone -- that means the ball is in your court on how you will touch another person's life. Go be the light instead of spreading darkness to a world that needs a little more sunshine.
Wednesday, July 17, 2019
Love----Intimacy, The Beginning...
Where do I start as my mind is racing but I know I have to put my thoughts down on paper. The last few weeks and/or days I have been thinking about love and intimacy. I realized that I am not sure what true intimacy is and I think sometimes I personally do not always receive love that well.
I mean how is that possible. God has put it on my heart and in my soul that I love people and I want to see people succeed or become successful. How come than do I not know how to receive myself. I think the main problem is I give so much to others that I forget to receive and give back to myself.
How many people in this world forget one of the most important people in his/her life --- which happens to be their self?
I wonder if that is one of the problems people face in his/her life. I know that is the issue that has been absorbing my thoughts. I want to be loved and I know I am loved by certain people, but could their still be something missing in my life when it comes to love? I also understand intimacy is another issue, but could intimacy and love work hand in hand. So many questions I can not answer at this time, but I know I am determine to figure out the answer.
I can say this for me I am done playing around with love and intimacy and just going through the motions but I want an emotion driven intimacy experience. I am not sure that is going to happen except I know I will not settle.
My hope is that no one will settle for what he/she deserves because we all deserve the best. My auntie told me recently that I should not have to go searching but something will come my way...I do not know if that is true but I decided it is about time to do some self-care, enjoy life, and enjoy the people in my life. I wonder if searching for something we think we need we miss what is right in front of us; which means I am going to starting being and not just always doing.
In the end, it comes down to what is right in my life for me and what is right in your life for you. I do not have all the answers but I know I will fight until I get what I want --- will you do the same?
Every person needs to feel loved and I believe should know what intimacy is...So in the next few months or maybe years I am going to search out these two terms and fight for the best for me...I hope you will do the same.
Just remember to not always keep your searching far off but look at what you have because you may be searching for something that is already right in front of you.
I mean how is that possible. God has put it on my heart and in my soul that I love people and I want to see people succeed or become successful. How come than do I not know how to receive myself. I think the main problem is I give so much to others that I forget to receive and give back to myself.
How many people in this world forget one of the most important people in his/her life --- which happens to be their self?
I wonder if that is one of the problems people face in his/her life. I know that is the issue that has been absorbing my thoughts. I want to be loved and I know I am loved by certain people, but could their still be something missing in my life when it comes to love? I also understand intimacy is another issue, but could intimacy and love work hand in hand. So many questions I can not answer at this time, but I know I am determine to figure out the answer.
I can say this for me I am done playing around with love and intimacy and just going through the motions but I want an emotion driven intimacy experience. I am not sure that is going to happen except I know I will not settle.
My hope is that no one will settle for what he/she deserves because we all deserve the best. My auntie told me recently that I should not have to go searching but something will come my way...I do not know if that is true but I decided it is about time to do some self-care, enjoy life, and enjoy the people in my life. I wonder if searching for something we think we need we miss what is right in front of us; which means I am going to starting being and not just always doing.
In the end, it comes down to what is right in my life for me and what is right in your life for you. I do not have all the answers but I know I will fight until I get what I want --- will you do the same?
Every person needs to feel loved and I believe should know what intimacy is...So in the next few months or maybe years I am going to search out these two terms and fight for the best for me...I hope you will do the same.
Just remember to not always keep your searching far off but look at what you have because you may be searching for something that is already right in front of you.
Saturday, June 29, 2019
Life Update - 06/29/2019
Today marks a new step in my life as I have started to focus on me and making sure I gain good health and balance.
Currently, I am addicted to Spin Class at the gym which has given me a new passion to exercise. This class is intense and at times challenging, but I realized in the end I just have to overcome my mind. The mind is a very powerful tool and all people need to do is control it. I believe if someone can overcome the doubt, fear, disbelief, or the ability to give up which their mind is saying than that person can overcome almost anything.
Another amazing avenue about life is my body is finally loosing weight. It has been a massive battle. I even had weight loss surgery, which did not get me to my goal weight, instead gave me additional health issues that I have to manage. The great thing this year brought me was more in tune to what my body needs and wants. First, I realized that I was addicted to sugar and my body did not like it, so I took a challenge to break the sugar addiction. Secondly, my body started to reject a lot of animal products especially meat, so I had to figure out a new way of eating and decided to try a raw food diet. As I shifted more to raw foods of fruits and veggies I began to feel amazing. I still had an issue which was how do I get the protein the doctor want me to get; while I decided to not to worry about what the doctors recommended and listened to my body. I started to try new fruits and vegetables and became addicted to raw juice - my journey to a healthy me was evolving.
Finally, I am determined to keep going or plowing forward. My biggest critique is myself, so I am determined to figure out how to love me. I think some times people miss that part of life because we take care of so many other things or people that people leave out themselves.
Now is the time for action. I don't know who this may help as it is an update on my progress of life. Folks remember go reach for the stars as each one of us have the power to do whatever we push our self into. The journey is up to us, so go fight for it.
Lastly, live the dream you want to....You have the power to be successful - Go Get it!
Currently, I am addicted to Spin Class at the gym which has given me a new passion to exercise. This class is intense and at times challenging, but I realized in the end I just have to overcome my mind. The mind is a very powerful tool and all people need to do is control it. I believe if someone can overcome the doubt, fear, disbelief, or the ability to give up which their mind is saying than that person can overcome almost anything.
Another amazing avenue about life is my body is finally loosing weight. It has been a massive battle. I even had weight loss surgery, which did not get me to my goal weight, instead gave me additional health issues that I have to manage. The great thing this year brought me was more in tune to what my body needs and wants. First, I realized that I was addicted to sugar and my body did not like it, so I took a challenge to break the sugar addiction. Secondly, my body started to reject a lot of animal products especially meat, so I had to figure out a new way of eating and decided to try a raw food diet. As I shifted more to raw foods of fruits and veggies I began to feel amazing. I still had an issue which was how do I get the protein the doctor want me to get; while I decided to not to worry about what the doctors recommended and listened to my body. I started to try new fruits and vegetables and became addicted to raw juice - my journey to a healthy me was evolving.
Finally, I am determined to keep going or plowing forward. My biggest critique is myself, so I am determined to figure out how to love me. I think some times people miss that part of life because we take care of so many other things or people that people leave out themselves.
Now is the time for action. I don't know who this may help as it is an update on my progress of life. Folks remember go reach for the stars as each one of us have the power to do whatever we push our self into. The journey is up to us, so go fight for it.
Lastly, live the dream you want to....You have the power to be successful - Go Get it!
Sunday, June 23, 2019
Loving
'Loving Beyond Boundaries'
Okay, so this is my first thought on this topic which I believe will develop a great deal. The main thing is I don't understand much but I do have a passion about this thing called LOVE.
I use to think that it is all about 'loving people back to life,' but I think it is more than that. My main concept now is loving beyond boundaries which I think will show people how Christ really loves them. I am still trying to figure out this topic but I am certain that love takes sacrifice.
For me, I am willing to sacrifice a few things to show people love or in terms to show the love of Jesus to all people no matter what background or differences they may have compared to me or others I associate with. What I have determined is I am not God, so I am not here to judge, but I am here to associate with people and to show them the love of Jesus through being an example. I am certain that people who experience Jesus will change their lives toward Him.
My problem is that I have so many questions and I am not sure if I will get all of them answered but I know that I am willing to seek out what the meaning to my questions are.
I am figuring out that love does cost a thing and people need to be willing to open up to what love my bring someone's way. I know for me when it comes to loving beyond boundaries I am willing to go through all the processes of love and figure out what those processes are. My hope is that I stay neutral in all areas of my life so I can cross boundaries and dine at all tables that come my way.
Love is important.
Love is powerful.
Love is unique.
The question is are people ready to love especially if it means some sacrifices.
Now is the time to LOVE...…
Okay, so this is my first thought on this topic which I believe will develop a great deal. The main thing is I don't understand much but I do have a passion about this thing called LOVE.
I use to think that it is all about 'loving people back to life,' but I think it is more than that. My main concept now is loving beyond boundaries which I think will show people how Christ really loves them. I am still trying to figure out this topic but I am certain that love takes sacrifice.
For me, I am willing to sacrifice a few things to show people love or in terms to show the love of Jesus to all people no matter what background or differences they may have compared to me or others I associate with. What I have determined is I am not God, so I am not here to judge, but I am here to associate with people and to show them the love of Jesus through being an example. I am certain that people who experience Jesus will change their lives toward Him.
My problem is that I have so many questions and I am not sure if I will get all of them answered but I know that I am willing to seek out what the meaning to my questions are.
I am figuring out that love does cost a thing and people need to be willing to open up to what love my bring someone's way. I know for me when it comes to loving beyond boundaries I am willing to go through all the processes of love and figure out what those processes are. My hope is that I stay neutral in all areas of my life so I can cross boundaries and dine at all tables that come my way.
Love is important.
Love is powerful.
Love is unique.
The question is are people ready to love especially if it means some sacrifices.
Now is the time to LOVE...…
Wednesday, June 19, 2019
LOVE!
LOVE....To ME it is a CHOICE
Today, I woke up after having a dream about being in a forbidden relationship with a person who makes my heart flutter and my stomach have butterflies. This person has the power to make my life great but complicated. This relationship would be forbidden in so many ways especially in some of my personal circles, so for now I choose to keep it a mystery or inside myself. Do I love this person, absolutely and I will continue to be their friend until the day I die, but I know for me the choice to make it a public relationship will not happen.
Everything I experience I believe is for a reason.
Everything I go through I believe is for a reason.
Everything I endure is so I can help another person on his/her journey of life.
For the past year I have thought about this thing called LOVE and I believe with all my heart everyone has the ability to choose who he/she is going to LOVE. I do not think we are born one way or another way, but I do believe our family, environments, and communities create in us the walls, boundaries, layers, and obstacles each person faces when it comes to LOVE.
For me I choose to wait until I find the person I could spend the rest of my life with and I choose to love all people in a way that will show respect, honor, and give each person sacred worth. I just wonder what it takes for others to love.
On this day I am reminded of an amazing person in my life, who showed the greatest love story. His name is Jesus Christ. Thousands of years ago he walked this Earth, and one day he decided to pay the greatest sacrifice by offering his own life. That day he was nailed to a poll and took his last breath. Jesus did this for all people, and this event created a way for people to become whole and free from their mistakes. Jesus loved people so much he gave up his life - this was his choice.
What is your choice? My Choice is to love people so much that I can love them back to life. I also hope I can show an ounce of love like Jesus showed.
The great news is the choice is up to each person, so go out there and LOVE. I do not mean for people to all others to walk all over them, but instead believe in your hear that their is love for you and in return you have the ability to love another person.
God Bless for know and keep on loving.
Remember I love you and so does Jesus Christ!
Sunday, June 9, 2019
Another Diet --- WHAT?
Today, June 9th, 2019, I am starting a raw vegan diet for the next 7 days. Actually, this diet is to break my addiction from sugar. I told my mom about this change and she stated - why another diet - Jenn, you already had weight-loss surgery. She had a good point. The problem is my weight is not where I want it to be and after the surgery certain foods have made me sick. My problem is no doctor can find out way I am having certain digestive issues that are making me feel miserable, so I decided after researching and evaluating other individuals maybe it is my diet. I can say I am addicted to juicing and feel awesome when I am drinking raw juice. The problem I get back to is that sugar is still my weakness. That is way this journey of raw vegan diet is upon me. I am excited. The problem I for see is diversifying my fruits and vegetables I eat, but I am willing to push through.
So here is to another amazing journey of dieting that might turn into a lifestyle shift..... For the next seven days I am going to document how I did and my feelings, so I can keep myself accountable to this challenge I am giving myself. I also hope in the future this could/may help another person. My hope is that my experience will help motivate someone else to do a shift or change in their life that will better them. Lets begin.....Day 1
So here is to another amazing journey of dieting that might turn into a lifestyle shift..... For the next seven days I am going to document how I did and my feelings, so I can keep myself accountable to this challenge I am giving myself. I also hope in the future this could/may help another person. My hope is that my experience will help motivate someone else to do a shift or change in their life that will better them. Lets begin.....Day 1
Saturday, March 23, 2019
Day 1: Restart
Today, I have decided to restart.
Let me explain, I have tried for many months and even years to get to a decent weight where I can feel good about myself and be out of the obesity category. Over the course of a year I have shifted my eating habits and added exercise except I have one problem and that is long term success. What I mean is I can manage the change in diet and exercise for a short term but fall off the wagon after a few days to weeks.
I realized this is not the only area I struggle with, so I am restarting in all areas of my life. When I reflect on my life one word comes to mind which is discipline. On this day of March 23, 2019 - I want to be disciplined in every area of my life and than teach others to do the same.
Again, this is my restart. I know some may think I have it all together but for me I want to not get complacent or just go through the motion. Instead I want to do my best in all areas of life including my health.
Here we go...I know this will not be a sprint instead it is a journey of life i have to take. If you feel you need a shift than you can restart your life anytime as the change has to start with you as no one can do it for you.
Day 1: started with drinking a nutritional supplement called moringa supermix. And my goal is no bread products just veggies, fruits, and protein.
Here I go
Let me explain, I have tried for many months and even years to get to a decent weight where I can feel good about myself and be out of the obesity category. Over the course of a year I have shifted my eating habits and added exercise except I have one problem and that is long term success. What I mean is I can manage the change in diet and exercise for a short term but fall off the wagon after a few days to weeks.
I realized this is not the only area I struggle with, so I am restarting in all areas of my life. When I reflect on my life one word comes to mind which is discipline. On this day of March 23, 2019 - I want to be disciplined in every area of my life and than teach others to do the same.
Again, this is my restart. I know some may think I have it all together but for me I want to not get complacent or just go through the motion. Instead I want to do my best in all areas of life including my health.
Here we go...I know this will not be a sprint instead it is a journey of life i have to take. If you feel you need a shift than you can restart your life anytime as the change has to start with you as no one can do it for you.
Day 1: started with drinking a nutritional supplement called moringa supermix. And my goal is no bread products just veggies, fruits, and protein.
Here I go
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